D&C 54:5

We could do without passages like this - that language that was so prevalent in the 1800s:. And whoa to him by whom this offense [ breaking a covenant] for it had been better for him that he had been drowned in the depths of the sea.

People have the right to change their minds about their membership in the church without being condemned, harassed,

The same holds for those who choose to join the church. They don't deserve condemnation by their friends and family. Respecting the agency of others does not equal tolerating choices I disagree with. Respect in these circumstances means to show regard or consideration for, to refrain from intruding a pond, or interfering with. The opposite of respect is criticism or disdain.

We can appreciate that choices have consequences. When Lehman Copley changed his mind it affected a lot of people. But no, it would not have been better that he had been drowned in the depth of the sea.

He is still a beloved Son of heavenly parents who love him as much as anyone else.

Today we know better and should not be judgmental of the choices of others.